136. Kimberly Jaeger-Arjes: Grief Gather Us

In today’s episode Kate and Betsy talk to old friend and colleague Kimberly Jaeger-Arjes about her new area of study and work as a death doula.  Death is often a topic we avoid because of the fear associated with it, but today we dive into talking about how interacting with it can allows us to live life more fully.

In today’s episode we discuss: 

  • Kimberly’s early curiosity about death including her hamsters untimely end in a sump pump, the loss of a grandparent, and the death of a friend in high school.
  • How death doulas have become more common but how our ancestors have long been supporting each other in the final days.
  • Death phobia and why so many people carry this.
  • Kimberly’s recent journey in losing her Grandmother and how she navigated this as a death doula and a granddaughter.
  • The fears each of us carry about death.
  • What is a death cafe?
  • How the capacity to live a bigger, fuller life has come out of Kimberly’s exploration of thinking about and sitting with death.
  • What is a death doula and how to find one near you.

Bio:

Kimberly Jaeger-Arjes has long been fascinated by the mysteries of life and death, a curiosity that began in childhood. This passion drives her exploration of how our bodies move, change, and age, and she believes that understanding death can profoundly shape how we live and love. With a background in yoga, creative expression, and energy work, Kimberly offers holistic support for both the living and the dying. Currently volunteering in hospice care, she provides companionship and guidance during life’s final moments, aiming to create safe spaces for grief, healing, and connection. A lifelong learner, Kimberly studies with a variety of teachers and is committed to fostering equity and accessibility in her practices. She emphasizes the importance of relationships—with ourselves, others, and the natural world—as essential to enriching our shared experiences. Kimberly believes that no one should die alone unless they choose to, and she invites others to join her on this journey of connection and support.

matron & mother

gardner, micro farmer, goat witch

end of life companion, death doula, caregiver in grief

yoga, meditation & intuitive comrade

practitioner of rest and restorative healing

Connect:

Instagram @kimiinthewoods

Facebook Kimberly Jaeger-Arjes

Facebook Death Doula Collective of Eastern Iowa

Public classes or one on one Yoga for grief @ Heartland Yoga 

Upcoming Events Mentioned in this Episode

  • Iowa City Death Cafe -Greenhouse last Tuesday of the month @ 7-9 pm, October 29th, November 26th
  • Cedar Rapids Death Cafe – The Breathing Room Yoga Sunday, November 10th, December 15th @ 1:30 pm
  • Grief Gathers Us: a circle for story-telling via zoom through Heartland Yoga. Group meets once a week to share stories and meditate on death, dying, and grief.

Past Episodes You Might Like 

Episode 30:  Grief: It’s Complicated

Today’s Episode sponsored by:

Kate Moreland Coaching

Dr Yoga Momma

Heartland Yoga

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